Have you seen this video?
A little girl and a little boy are arguing over whether it is sprinkling or raining outside and tensions run pretty high here.
So often when I’m debating with someone (Mainly Raffi) about something trivial, like if Expelliarmus was the best spell for Harry to use at the final battle, I’ll cut the conversation short by saying “You’re not real, I’m real” (one of the most genius lines in the video). Because, so often, you’re both right!
I’m one of those people who get sucked into online drama pretty easily. I definitely read the comments and I totally relate to the Michael Jackson Popcorn GIF that get’s posted on every heated Facebook thread. In almost every thread, I see two people arguing over who is right and who is wrong and it reminds me of this video because:
THEY’RE BOTH RIGHT.
There is more than one right answer to any opinion based question, especially when it comes to art and creativity.
This new revaluation can also be incredibly freeing. What’s right for him might not be right for you and what’s right for you might not be right for her. There’s no pressure to be the “right one” because there is no right one.
The other day someone asked me a few different ways what is the right film stock to use. I totally get it too…. I thought Fuji400 was THE film stock for years simply because it’s what everyone else used. It wasn’t until two years later that I found my work to shine brighter on Portra400. That doesn’t mean I’m right or they’re wrong, it just means my preferred film stock is Portra. But if another photographer out there found their work looks best on Fuji 400, well then we are both real AND pretty cause we found our right answer. (Really, this post doesn’t work that well without watching that video, so if you haven’t yet…)
Another friend of mine told me she just started shooting film and texted her friend if she should meter with the bulb in or out. Her friend said “Bulb out” and I shrugged and said, “I do mine bulb in.” My friend then gave a small exasperated sigh at that news. It’s frustrating when you keep getting different advice but it’s liberating when you realize you can take your OWN advice. You can do trial and error, experiment, leave everyone else’s opinion behind and figure out YOUR answer. What’s the answer that is true for you?
Girl, it’s Wednesday, we still got time to dig deep and find our right answers to our most pressing questions this week!
|Denise Karis is an Arizona wedding photographer who enjoys musicals, Doctor Who and breakfast burritos. IG @denisekaris|
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